My oldest son turned 3 years of age early this year, and at his 3 year checkup the pediatrician was concerned about his verbal development. Generally speaking men in my family are "late bloomers" when it comes to talking as toddlers. So the pediatrician recommended a consult with a child development specialist to evaluate my 3 year old for "normal development."
So my 3 year old was evaluated on 5 areas, from "verbalization" to "shyness" and he failed 3 of 5 categories (the specialist wrote "shyness" next to each failure). This isn't anything I didn't know, but I hoped that the "specialist" would have some sort of advice or resources to assist in teaching my son.
The "specialist" had no resources to give, and this week my wife received in the mail a notice that a committee on child welfare would meet to discuss our "case" at such and such a time and we are welcome to attend. I am livid, absolutely fucking pissed off.
Any person with two brain cells to rub together knows that this is a colossal waste of time for all involved. There is no environment better for my son than with his family. There is no immediate action to take to play "catch up" on his verbal skills that this committee can offer. The outcome is 99.9% certain that the committee will find "no evidence of neglect, endangerment, or abuse" and close the matter.
However, that .01% chance that the committee of busybodies will make some other determination pisses me off. I've been reloading ammunition to sooth my rage (assembling precision ammunition requires a calm mind).
In my sons 3 year life he has been stationed with me at three Army posts in three different states. He has held my hand and sent me off to war twice, and Captain's Career Course once. He will send me off to school again this summer, but come hell or high water we will see each other more than I was able to at MCCC. In comparison to other kids I think my son is amazingly normal and well developed.
For the last few days I've had the opportunity to look into my soul and see how far I would go to protect my child. They say don't get between a mama bear and her cubs. The same advice applies to not pissing off bruins as well.
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What does "a committee on child welfare" mean??
I am livid, absolutely fucking pissed off.
As would I and posted.
LL, acronyms have been changed to protect the incompetent, but "committee on child welfare" means that a panel of social workers and other professional busybodies get to sit around and review a write up of the "report" someone submitted. In my case the report is that my son failed an evaluation for normal development by the specialist who was referred by the pediatrician.
Want back up? Or at least an alibi?
"I swear, Officer, he was with me at the ball game."
I've contemplated this one a few times myself with my daughter.
Just remembered this. Be careful. Totalitarian government, we have.
The New Jersey incident. What motivates bureaucrats.
http://freenorthcarolina.blogspot.com/2011/11/new-jersey-incident-what-motivates.html
"The outcome is 99.9% certain that the committee will find "no evidence of neglect, endangerment, or abuse" and close the matter."
That would be the case if you weren't dealing with do-gooder busybodies. Never expect common sense or reasonable conduct from professional douchebags. They are dedicated meddlers with delusions of adequacy. The only time I ever saw a psychologist (part of a pain mgt program) he was such a twit that I had to regale him with tales of debauchery and depravity from when I was in a motorsickle gang, just to see the look on his face. He asked me 3 times if if I had a criminal record (no). You will be dealing with clowns like that. They come from another planet.
_Revjen45
Stay as far away from these idiots and you can. Having worked in the 'mental health field' for over 20 years, I can only state that the social worker types look for issues to 'treat' and lo be into you as a parent who (depending on what State you live in)may get caught up in this bullshit. Good luck - thanks for your writing.
That kind of news riles me deeply, how about home schooling ?
My first thought would be to take that "pediatrician" to task for releasing your families private medical information without your knowledge or approval.. if that is somehow OK these days I would see how he likes his business made public.. its amazing how much you can find out on the internet..
Yank lll
My wife is an RN at a local hospital. Due to HIPAA she can be fired for even looking at my med records - for example getting the results of my last blood test. This actually happened to another nurse in her dept. How is it that these toads aren't subject to the same laws (rhetorical question).
My Son is 9 and he is doing well, but the local indoctrination er I mean Elementary school is filling his head with crap. he asked me about it when he gets home and I reach over and pull out one of my trusty history books and show where they are totally rewriting history to suit an agenda. I do the same thing with science that they use to push the junk science of global warming...global cooling and others incidents. I have started getting information together so I can set up a homeschooling program. I don't want my kids intellect to be squashed so he conforms like the other soon to be drones.
Can you tell that I feel your pain to borrow a clintonism.
I can set up a homeschooling program
Please do, Sir and you might look at the Robinson one we use.
http://www.robinsoncurriculum.com/
Use caution dealing with these fuckers brother
Good word there!
The confusing thing about this is that these jokers don't have any resources or offer any solutions. Seems like they would get him into a speech therapist and give you some exercises to do with him at home or something.
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Use caution dealing with these fuckers brother
May 11, 2012 7:58 PM
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Damn straight!
these people are *NOT* your friends!
Were I in your shoes, I'd be seeking an attorney with experience in dealing with this sort of BS!
Compared to 'social workers' the average pig today is a picture of helpfulness and sanity!
Once you're 'in the system' there's damn near no way to EVER get out!!
I'd use less caution handling a pissed off rattlesnake!
I'd be seeking an attorney with experience in dealing with this sort of BS!
If you were homeschooling and belonged to the HSLDA ($10.00) a month, you would have free representation. Actually, you could pull your child out this week, join them and you'd be good to go. We belong.
https://www.hslda.org/about/default.asp
Home School Legal Defense Association is a nonprofit advocacy organization established to defend and advance the constitutional right of parents to direct the education of their children and to protect family freedoms. Through annual memberships, HSLDA is tens of thousands of families united in service together, providing a strong voice when and where needed.
HSLDA advocates on the legal front on behalf of our members in matters which include conflicts with state or local officials over homeschooling. Each year, thousands of member families receive legal consultation by letter and phone, hundreds more are represented through negotiations with local officials, and dozens are represented in court proceedings. HSLDA also takes the offensive, filing actions to protect members against government intrusion and to establish legal precedent. On occasion, HSLDA will handle precedent-setting cases for nonmembers, as well.
With respect, Sir. They will interrogate your kids and discover you have guns and ammo. Your trade is already suspect, and they'll do all they can to disarm you, and if possible, take your kids.
You're in a friggin' minefield, Captain, exercise all your patient restraint and smiley face "YASSUH! Three bags full!"
Old Top has seen it happen before.
Vaya con Dios, Sir!
Please keep us updated on how this progresses. Praying that everything goes well for you guys.
From another angle... my son was seriously delayed in his speech at the same age. Our pediatrician recommended that we consult with a speech pathologist. The speech pathologist was great and provided info about other resources to look into after his assessment. We talked to some and they were fruitcakes. The county program sucked so we said "screw it," bailed on that, and paid out of pocket for four months with the original speech pathologist. My insurance covered everything after we hit the copay.
The boy is now four and has caught up most of the way. And, most importantly, the speech pathologist focused on assessing what he was having issues with and gave us the tools to help him understand how to form those sound combos. Did the trick.
The government programs SUCK; they are done almost strictly for the purpose of existing as well as justifying expansion of their programs. My son will have another assessment by the speech pathologist in another four months.
As our pediatrician stated it, "Speech therapy is best handled like organized sports - have a SEASON of it, then step back, do your thing, and assess later. It's unlikely that a child without other issues will need further speech therapy.
well the meeting has come and gone. The "sales pitch" for getting into programs and services was a tad intense. But I declined any further intervention or testing on their part.
They recorded everything we did and said, so hopefully none of this comes back to bite me in the ass in terms of "neglect" or "failure to thrive" later on.
They recorded everything we did and said
I assume you didn't have a choice, correct?
our only choice was whether to show up or not.
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