I've noticed a few things in my short life.
First observation, an independent woman comes with unique relationship issues. When a woman really doesn't need a man in her life, quite often a man isn't in her life.
Second observation, a woman who wants a man is likely to get one. The lower she sets her standards the more likely she is to get a man.
I bring this up because self actualized independent women are drop dead sexy. The problem with that is that they have usually grown to be self actualized and independent because some man took their heart and ran it through a meat grinder before throwing lemon juice on it. Not that men are entirely to blame because it takes two to have a relationship, but I'd say it's a solid trend.
This means that independent women are hard to start a relationship with, and when you do get a relationship started you end up dealing with the crap that the last guy left behind. Once again this is a generalization of a trend that I have noticed, your mileage may vary.
Another trend that I have noticed is that men generally suck at maintaining a healthy relationship. Usually men stick around for the sex, and when the sex goes away so does the man. It seems that women start a relationship with a man based on the hope that someday he will grow or mature into Mr. Right. So when the sex gets routine and he hasn't turned into Mr. Right, well then that is usually the end of the relationship.
So to all the beautiful, smart, self actualized women out there... stay single. Until a man comes along who is willing to fight your past to start and maintain a relationship, you really are better off single. It isn't hard at all for a woman to find a man for a night or a few months. But finding a man who is committed, the kind that doesn't give up on you, the kind that has the faithful soul of a sled dog, that's another story.
But don't give up hope that he will find you, just realize that if he doesn't you are much better off being a happy individual than an unhappy partner.
And advice for the guys. A woman who can stand on her own two feet and think for herself is a jewel to be treasured. Sometimes it is difficult to maintain a relationship with an independent spirit, but if it was easy everyone would do it.